ADVICES FOR FAMILY AND COUPLES WITH THE AUNT

2. This man is lying to my daughter

Q: How do I make my daughter see that her boyfriend obviously has another woman? She says she trusts him, but he's never around. I've never known a person to "work" as much as he does. Whether it's Christmas Day or Easter Sunday, it seems as if his signature cannot cope without him. He's always disappearing for days on end, and even when he's with her he's often in the garden on his phone. This behavior is so suspicious, but she just puts up with it.

Dear mother and friend

I understand your great concern, because a daughter is the most important thing in a mother's life and we always want the best for them.

But at this moment, it is very important to have peace of mind and security to talk about the matter with her, because, generally women act in a contrary way when love reaches the heart, then first tell your daughter, what a man is like when he is in love, how her actions, gestures and feelings should be, she must observe the behavior in an objective and direct way, so that she can understand if he is feeling affection for her or not. Then, can decide if she wants to continue the relationship with him.

For my part I consider that the boyfriend of his daughter does not have a true feeling towards her and this could be very negative for the esteem of the young woman.

I hope my advice can be of great help, write me to know the results.

With lots of love.                                                                                  

 Agony

Q: Every year my sister-in-law gives my two daughters really rubbish presents for Christmas and birthdays. I always buy her nice things, but there are times when she re-gifted those presents to us. This meanness makes me so angry. I fear that if I try to say anything, I'll lose control and blow my top. I'm desperate not to fall out with her for the sake of my mother-in-law, who is very ill. But how am I supposed to handle it?

Your family situation is really uncomfortable, but, you may have a complex solution for being family and emotions have an important role.

So, you can talk to your sister-in-law and ask how her family situation is, she may have great economic difficulties and that could be the reason for her acting, but otherwise, in her case, she would not be in family gatherings, she prefers to share with the family, it is something not pleasant. It is always better to choose the company and the love between all, in other words this must be something without importance for all.

I hope my advice will be of help to you and your whole family.

With love

Agony

4.         SEX MATTERS

Q: My partner only wants to have sex with me when he's drunk, which I find incredibly hurtful. If I say anything about it, he jokes: "That's the only time I can touch you. "We've been together for five years and our lives have become very mundane. We often sleep in separate beds because of their snoring. Yet he's all over me. All I crave is a normal, loving relationship. Why should I have to put up with this?

Dear friend

Reading your letter I can realize that you have a conflictive relationship and there is a feeling of love, understanding and dialogue in couple. A loving relationship should preserve respect, motivate personal and social growth. It is not good that he shares with a friend and you are alone at home, I think you should talk to your partner about his actions and if it is not possible, definitely breaking with him is the right action.

Sometimes, it is necessary to place our being first over others, when the partner does not show respect, love and understanding in the relationship, because in the future would be affecting self-esteem and this can not be accepted by a woman.

With love

Agony